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What Goes on in the Mind of a Suicidal Person and Reasons You Should Never Kill Yourself

When you are in the middle of a negative thought stream, everything seems so dark and hopeless.

However, do you know that you can change how you feel instantly by switching to another thought?

Why Taking Your Own Life May Never Be the Solution to the Problem?

A very depressed and suicidal person may be tempted to think that by committing suicide, all their problems will be solved. Based on that belief, they choose to end their life. However, is that belief even true? What if it’s not true? Your life-and-death decision is based on a belief that hasn’t been proven to be true or not. If it’s not, you can’t be revived.

Death may seem like an escape to all the problems you have, because right now, right here, in this human form, you perceive death as something that will make you invisible. Because most dead people can’t go back to tell their story (actually I haven’t heard of anyone who was able to go back at all), living people assume that once they are dead, everything ends. However, what if death is only a transition to another state? In that state, you are invisible to the physical world, but you can see them? Will it make a difference in your decision to kill yourself?

What if whatever you think will help you escape the world, is actually only an illusion? Your death will be for nothing. Worse yet, you will be stuck in that ethereal form, with the emotional mess that you are currently in, and unable to do anything. You’ll see the people you love suffer from your death. You want to hug them, offer them consolation but feel helpless because you can’t. Is that feeling better than what you are experiencing right now? At least while you are alive, you can make changes to the situation, whether for better or for worse. And remember, if you believe you have it rock bottom, there is little chance that what lies ahead will be worse than what is right now.

Remember, after a storm, everything will become very calm and the sun will reappear.

Don’t take a temporary setback and make it permanent.

No matter how hard the situation is or how bad you feel, there will always be a way out that doesn’t involve you killing yourself.

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How to Hack Your Subconscious Mind

Most of us have heard about the subconscious mind, however, most don’t have a clear idea of what it really is and how to best utilize our subconscious mind to our advantage.

What Is the Subconscious Mind

The subconscious mind is, as its name suggests, a part of the brain that you may not be aware of while you are awake. When you are asleep, however, the subconscious mind becomes more active than ever. It actively runs through what happened in the previous day and stores data into the permanent memory.

How to Hack Your Subconscious Mind

There is a simple tip you can implement today to start making your subconscious mind work for you. First, here’s a fact: Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between negative thoughts and positive ones. Whatever you feed into the subconscious mind will be used by it to form automatic thought patterns that determine your view of the world.

Now, here’s the trick to hack the subconscious mind: Right before falling asleep, think about something that you would like the subconscious mind to work on. Surely, you don’t want to dwell on sad memories or else your subconscious will work on that and god knows what more of it you will get in the morning.

Make your subconscious mind work for you by deliberately thinking about good memories and things you want to achieve or solve right before falling asleep. The power of the subconscious is unlimited. Even when you feel hopeless and clueless during the day, the subconscious has ways of tapping into the infinite intelligence which will provide a solution to your problem. When you wake up in the morning, you’ll come up with ideas that you never thought about before the previous day.

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Psychology Relationships Self-Esteem

5 Benefits of Personal Development

If your goal is to become a better version of yourself, then personal development is something you should focus on. In fact, even though it may seem so easy to go through life without thinking deeper about ourselves, investing in personal development can yield tremendous benefits to both your personal and professional life.

Better Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is what gives you a sense of your own abilities as well as weaknesses. People with low self-awareness can go through life not knowing why they run into the same situation. They don’t recognize the patterns. Once you have self-awareness, you can better navigate through life situations knowing which part of your personality causes certain situations to appear in your life.

Greater Resilience

Life is not always about happiness and prosperity. Each of us goes through tougher times countless times in our life. When you have better self-awareness, you tend to be more perseverant when facing difficulties.

A Clearer Sense of Direction

Many of us go through life not really knowing what we want. As a result, we drift through life and let circumstances push us around. Not anymore with personal development. Once you become more aware and resilient, you know exactly where you want to be and work hard to achieve it. Difficulties no longer scare you as much, as you realize they are part of the journey.

More Fulfilling Relationships

By knowing who you are deep inside, you also know who you want to be with in terms of interpersonal relationships. You no longer want to stay in a toxic relationship for fear of being alone. You build friendships with people who lift you up.

More Motivation to Excel in Life

A lack of motivation is what keeps us from achieving our goals. One way to build motivation is to embark on a personal development journey. By getting to know yourself better, you’ll find motivation along the way.

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Psychology Self-Esteem

Why Do We Procrastinate and How to Overcome Procrastination with Temptation Bundling

How many of you have problems completing your daily goals? If you are like me, you often find yourself setting up goals that you end up missing at the end of the day. From my own observation, there’s always something that will interfere with my ability to consistently complete the tasks. Whether it’s the hot/cold weather, or the uncomfortable chair, or the distracting noises nearby. Even if the outside environment looks perfectly productive, I still find reasons within myself to postpone completing a task or prolong the time it takes to complete it. 

Our mind is our greatest enemy.

The inability to concentrate on the task at hand is the major reason why projects fail and goals are not met. Our mind is very creative when it comes up with endless things to do that have nothing to do with the task we are supposed to complete at all. Conquering such a wandering mind requires great effort, and a bit of a strategy.

First of all, we need to understand why we avoid certain tasks and keep procrastinating even though we know it leads nowhere but failure.

The Avoidance of Pain

Believe it or not, your mind constantly searches for pleasure and avoids pain. For example, you watch that movie because it gives you joy. You can’t wait to try the dessert because you already know how delicious it tastes. On the contrary, you would avoid putting your hands on top of a hot stove because experience from the past tells you it’s a bad idea.

Our brain’s tendency to avoid pain is crucial to our survival. After all, if our ancestors didn’t learn from their bad experiences and avoid all pain-causing objects, we would not be here today. However, since our brain mostly operates on a survival mode, it can mislead us into avoiding tasks that can lead to our success.

If you are like me, you dislike Math. That’s why when it comes to completing the Math homework, I often find myself procrastinating. It’s funny how our brain tricks us into believing that we can successfully crack that difficult homework the night before the deadline.

How the Avoidance of Pain Can Ruin Your Life

There are two types of motivation behind everything you do: either it derives from love or from fear. Love and fear are the two strongest emotions that are the driving force behind our actions. For example:

  •  When doing their homework, most people often do it out of fear of failing their class. 
  • When you decide to cook a lovely meal for your partner, chances are you are doing it out of love, not because you fear they would throw a tantrum if you don’t.
  • When you eat chocolate, you do it because it gives you pleasure, a form of loving feelings. When you try to stay away from chocolate, you may do it out of fear of gaining weight.

There is nothing wrong with using fear to propel you forward, as with the case of finishing high school or graduating from university for fear of not getting a good job. However, acting out of fear doesn’t always work in real-life situations. In fact, most of the time, it does you more harm than good.

Staying in a boring job that you hate because you are afraid you won’t be able to find employment after quitting is not only detrimental to your mental health but also a waste of time. Yet, many people do so. They rationalize their choice by believing that it will get better with time and after some time, they may get a promotion.

The fear of instability often leads us to choose something we are familiar with rather than opting for something unknown. That’s the reason why most people opt to climb the corporate ladder rather than launching their own business. It feels much safer having a paycheck deposited into your account each month than to struggle to find your own customers, beat the competition, and make a profit.

When you find yourself procrastinating, deep inside yourself, you are avoiding some kind of pain that you may not even be aware of. Many of our fears get imprinted in the subconscious mind and become the underlying force that dictates our life even though we are not aware of them. Therefore, to overcome procrastination, first, you need to look deep inside yourself to figure out what is the fear that’s preventing you from taking action.

Many times, people procrastinate because they fear failure. For example, you postpone writing that dream book of your life because you fear no one would be interested in reading it. You take forever to set up your ecommerce business because of the overwhelming fear of competition. How will customers find you? Would they buy the product?

Now, think about this. If you know for sure that doing X will result in Y which is the result you want, would you hesitate to do X? I doubt that you will. When the route is clear and the result is certain, you will have no fear of taking action.

By understanding the underlying fear that governs your procrastination, you’ll stand a better chance of overcoming it.

(to be continued…)