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What to Do When You Are the One at Fault in a Relationship (In a Quarrel)

You know the saying, one of the basic human needs is the need for variety. Naturally, when things are too peaceful, I, for some reason I don’t know, want to create some kind of excitement (or trouble, which is more accurate). I don’t know about you, but I have a natural tendency to look for troubles even in the finest situations. My boyfriend has always told me how much he loved me and that’s I’m the woman of his life, however, being a woman suspicious of men’s intention, I don’t entirely trust him. Whenever he failed to return home at the ordinary time, doubts filled my mind, even though he explained that he was merely visiting his friends. He just separated from his ex-wife and they share two daughters together. He used to be a popular boy that women loved in the past. For a woman with lots of insecurities to deal with and a history of being lied to by men, being with him means I have to fight my own insecurities and learn to trust him. Without trust, the relationship will never work.

So, that’s the theory. I lost my temper one day when he returned home late visiting his friend and didn’t buy something I especially asked him to buy. I took it as a sign that he doesn’t love me enough. I showed my tantrum. It was the biggest fight we’ve had so far in our relationship. He said he couldn’t stand me not trusting him and how my tantrum had caused him damages. He started behaving in an irrespectful way towards me (To be sincere, the same irrespectful way I behaved towards him when I was angry). There were more misunderstandings when we tried to converse, even when I tried to do something nice to him (without telling him in advance), he still took it the bad way. The turning point came when I couldn’t hold it and burst out crying before him. He softened down and asked me to come to his arms. Being completely hurt at the moment, I refused the offer and went to my room to…cry.

While in my room, after crying my eyes out, I had a chance to reflect upon the relationship. Is this something I want? Do I want our relationship to end like this? After thinking it through and the answer (which is No, just in case you wonder), I gathered up my left-over courage and returned to his room, knocked on the door, and without a word, went straight to his bed to lie next to him. He hugged me and we practically reconciled.

Fighting is an inevitable thing in a long-term relationship. However, with my temperament, I tend to fight even more often than the normal couple. I think the key to reconcilation after a hot argument is to step back, soften down, show your vulnerable side, and if you are a woman, show your man how much you still love him. If he loves you truly, he will forgive you.

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How to Hack Your Subconscious Mind

Most of us have heard about the subconscious mind, however, most don’t have a clear idea of what it really is and how to best utilize our subconscious mind to our advantage.

What Is the Subconscious Mind

The subconscious mind is, as its name suggests, a part of the brain that you may not be aware of while you are awake. When you are asleep, however, the subconscious mind becomes more active than ever. It actively runs through what happened in the previous day and stores data into the permanent memory.

How to Hack Your Subconscious Mind

There is a simple tip you can implement today to start making your subconscious mind work for you. First, here’s a fact: Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between negative thoughts and positive ones. Whatever you feed into the subconscious mind will be used by it to form automatic thought patterns that determine your view of the world.

Now, here’s the trick to hack the subconscious mind: Right before falling asleep, think about something that you would like the subconscious mind to work on. Surely, you don’t want to dwell on sad memories or else your subconscious will work on that and god knows what more of it you will get in the morning.

Make your subconscious mind work for you by deliberately thinking about good memories and things you want to achieve or solve right before falling asleep. The power of the subconscious is unlimited. Even when you feel hopeless and clueless during the day, the subconscious has ways of tapping into the infinite intelligence which will provide a solution to your problem. When you wake up in the morning, you’ll come up with ideas that you never thought about before the previous day.

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The Best Food Items to Stock Up During Coronavirus Pandemic

During this difficult time, everyone seems to stock up on food, toilet papers, bottled water, and washing gel. However, is it a good idea that you flock to the supermarket at the same time as everyone else and risk contracting the virus due to being within close distance to one another? Before buying out of irrational fear, let’s take a deep breath and think twice. As you know, going to the store is not the only way to get food. You can reduce the risk of contracting the virus to zero by ordering online. Depending on where you live, you may have access to home deliveries offered by all nearby stores, or none (if you happen to live in a tiny city like I do). However, fret not! Even though the local supermarkets refuse to deliver to your doorsteps, there’s still Amazon. And during this tough time, I’m sure all of us can forgo the luxury of fresh vegetables and juicy fruits for our own safety’s sake.

If you have been wondering what are the best items to stock up on during times of quarantine and lockdown, here are some of the products I don’t hesitate to order in bulk, simply because they have been my comfort food for a long time. And best of all, they have long shelf life.

  1. Indo Mie Goreng Noodles,80 g – Pack of 40

If you want the true taste of Asian instant noodles, this mie goreng is a must-try. It has many flavours to choose from. But for me, the Hot & Spicy one is the best. Don’t worry. The spiciness won’t make your eyes water or send you looking for a cool glass of water. Do mind that this is a dried noodle dish, so follow the instructions carefully to get the best taste possible. You won’t regret it. To make it even more delicious and nutritious, add a boiled egg to the mix. Or if you have time and feel creative, why not follow the recipe in the video below?

Kraft Original Macaroni & Cheese Dinner

There’s nothing more comforting than sitting in front of the TV watching a classic movie while chowing down on your favorite comfort food: macaroni & cheese. It’s not hard to find it on Amazon. However, as you may know, the more you hurry, the better, as people know too well they need to order before everyone else and hot supplies don’t last long.

Knorr Bolognese Ready to Use Sauce, 2.2 Litre

What could be better than being able to prepare a plate of hot bolognese pasta right in your kitchen without having to go to a restaurant or order delivery service? Don’t just stock up on dry pasta alone. That’s not enough. And no, you’ll grow bored with ordinary tomato sauce soon enough. Stock up on these ready-to-use bolognese sauce bottles and all you’ll need to do is boiling the pasta. Fry up chopped onions, add a bit of olive oil, and then pour in the sauce. You’ll be amazed by how good it tastes.

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4 Signs of a Toxic Friendship

 “It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it.” – Mandy Hale

Having good friends in your life can change everything. Research has shown that people with a solid social network tend to live longer and more happily. However, when it comes to friendship, quality triumphs over quantity. You may not be the social butterfly, but if you are able to form deep meaning relationships with people who share common values with you, you still lead a fulfilling life. Now it comes to a question: How do we know if a friendship is healthy or toxic for us? Once we’ve figured that out, cut the toxic influences and nurture the ones that make us a better person.

Signs of a Toxic Friendship

Your Friend Says You Need to Change

Let’s face it. The last time you tried to change someone, did it work? Not only did you offended and annoyed the person, but you also ruined the relationship. If your friend can’t accept you for who you are and just keep pointing fingers, maybe it’s time to reconsider the friendship.

Too Much Negativity

We all want to help a friend when he’s down and out, but how about a friend who is perpetually negative and can’t stop finding faults in everything? Even when you try to cheer him up, you end up feeling down because of his complaints and criticism. Such a relationship is detrimental to your mental health.

Who Calls Whom?

A healthy friendship must have a balance of interaction between two people. If one person does all the talking about herself and refuses to listen to her friend’s problems, she’s not really that friend you want to keep.

You Walk on Eggshells Around Them 

If you can’t freely express your opinion and be yourself around your friend for fear of him lashing out at you, there’s something wrong in the relationship.